My condolences on your situartion.  Relay is the Way.  The national focus this year is Celebrate - Remember - Fight Back!  It looks as though you are ready to fight back.  We have so much to celebrate.  Each year there are improvements in the treatment and prevention of cancer.  Each year we are now seeing the cancer death rate drop.  We are winning the war on cancer!  But we also remember.  We remember the struggles that the victims of cancer and their loved ones endure.  We remember those that have lost their battle with cancer.  Some may sit back is quiet desperation, in submissive acceptance of the inevitable, but I am mad as hell and I'm not taking it anymore.  I will FIGHT BACK!  This website is an excellent resource for you to learn more on how get involved.  Anyone can write a check, but your involvement, no matter how limited, is much more important.  You can serve on the committee, be a team captain or be a team member.  There are many other way you can fight back, but these are the primary ones.  Once you find your nearest Relay, ask what position on the committe would best suit you.  Some positions require a lot of time, and some not so much.  There is something you can do to make a difference.  No burden is too heavy when we all lift together.